According to Jim Bunch, founder of The Ultimate Game of Life, we have 9 environments that affect our attitude, our well being and ultimately our success in life. The environment I'd like to focus on today is our relationship environment, which includes the people we spend the most time with.
The article below suggests an activity that will help you identify who you spend your time with and whether they are a positive or negative influence on your energy and thus your life. When I first did this exercise at Breakthrough to Success, I was a bit surprised to realize that a couple of the people I loved the most were on my list of negative influences.
At BTS, Jack Canfield went on to reveal his own list. His mother was on the top of his negative list! Certainly a dilemma, however, Jack outlined a strategy to help minimize the impact of negative people in our lives, even family members, and begin helping us make the shift to more positive influences that will ultimately support our growth and success.
Today, I have been pretty successful making the shift and expanding the positive influences in my life. My changes included a decision to end a significant relationship as well as incorporating a simple strategy to put some limits around one particular relationship with a person who approaches life negatively. The results have been amazing ... not only in the way I feel, but in the people I've set limits with or have completely let go of!
I have this conversation alot with teens ... and it's amazing to see their awareness shift as they begin to make changes in who they choose to spend their time with and how their energy and their lives begin to shift.
Check out this article to assess your own relationships and learn how to shift to more positive connections! And then, share it with the teens in your life!
You Are Who Your Friends Are