Event + Response = Outcome
The basic idea behind this Principle is this. In life, events happen. There is really nothing we can do to change them. It is our response to an event that determines the outcome that we end up with. The only part of the equation that we really have any control over is our response.
This Principle suggests that we take 100% responsibiltiy for our lives and for our responses to the events of our lives. No more blaming others or complaining about the outcomes we are experiencing, but rather consciously choosing to spend our time and energy focused on our responses to life events in order to effect the outcomes.
When first introduced to this Principle, I found myself justifying alot ... thinking, yes, but he said ... or they did ... or what about that.
Today, to the best of my ability, I look at the outcome I am experiencing. If I don't like it, I decide what I can do differently to change it. The actions are not always easy, but the outcomes are always better. At times I've had to set boundaries with the people I love, practice tough love, decline a lucrative contract with a difficult client, forego a social engagement and opt for rest and rejuvenation.
Sometimes, hidden beneath the outcomes I am experiencing are patterns created by limiting beliefs that I've been carrying around for years that need to be released.
And finally, I am always grateful for the lesson, the insight, and the shift that consciously choosing my responses to the events in my life provides.
Read more about this principle in this article by Jack Canfield at
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